Different Methods Help You Communicate with Your Child’s Teacher as a Parent with a Disability

As parents, we all know that our children’s success in school helps them carve out a path to their future. Part of that success in school is being able to communicate with your child’s teacher and be part of the educational team. As a parent with a disability, you may feel like you face obstacles in communicating with their teachers or even participating in the educational journey they are on, but do not be discouraged. There are many ways to communicate with your child’s teacher.

Whether it’s this subject or another obstacle you may face in accomplishing your goals as a parent with a disability, the best advice I can give you is to create a plan. That plan needs to be specific to your needs. You should have it outlined in your mind at the minimum to know what you are going to do when you need to put it into effect.

When my son began attending school, the options were limited as to how I would interact with the teachers and other school staff as independently as possible. Being unable to drive, I knew issues would present themselves, though I was not sure how I was going to solve the puzzle that was in front of me.  I decided to come up with an alternative way so that I would be able to compensate for my limitations. I was determined to be as involved in every aspect of his schooling as possible and was not going to allow the obstacles that lie in front of me from having the same experience with my child as other parents that did not have a disability. Their school experience is where kids make a lot of memories with their families, and I wanted to share that part of his life with him too.

When it was time to attend parent teacher conferences or meet the teacher, I had to tap into my natural supports to make that happen. Natural supports, also sometimes referred to as organic supports, are a great tool you should already have in place before an event. This will alleviate your need to be worried at the last minute about how you can get certain things done. It took having a network of different people willing to help by being available at specific times so I could participate in those activities.

When the pandemic unexpectedly arrived in early 2020, the ways in which people were communicating and handling their daily lives got flipped upside down. That included how students were attending school. Suddenly, my son was home attending classes over the camera on my computer and he even brought some classes literally into my living room.

On a positive note, the new options that were available not only made things easier but also more accessible. The technology allowed me to interact with his teachers more independently. This helped since I no longer had to coordinate with someone else’s schedule to make sure I could participate in a school meeting.

Things like using email communication, phone conferencing or video conferencing allow you to have open communication with teachers and other staff people. This is a great option to allow open communication whether they have an issue with the student that needs to be addressed or if you have a concern you need to bring to their attention. Suddenly, the limitations your disability might place on you have disappeared and are no longer a factor. You can focus on the matter at hand which is your student’s educational needs.

The most important thing is to be a proactive and involved parent on your student’s educational journey. Research the ways you can participate in the school’s events. Make a plan you feel good about and is functional for you. As a result, being able to be a present and proactive parent will let your child know they are loved and supported.

When interacting with their teachers, reassure them you are a proactive parent and are there to support your student and the teacher in their work. Not only will these steps help your student succeed in their educational life, but you will have the chance to make memories with them that will give them a chance for a successful future.

Dating Someone with a Disability: A Few Things You Should Know

Dating can be an exciting part of life. It gives you the chance to meet different people and learn about the different kinds of relationships people can experience in their lives. Dating a person with a disability may not have been anything you have considered before. Maybe you have dated someone with a disability and felt like you went about it all wrong. In the second part to this blog, I wanted to share some tips for people without a disability who might be interested in approaching someone with a disability to go on a date or begin a relationship with that other person but don’t know where to start.

We are people first. The main thing to know is that people with disabilities are people first. This idea came from a movement of self-advocates who wanted people without disabilities not to define them by their disability. The shift in the way people address those with a disability takes the focus off the disability and keeps it on the individual, where it should be. People with disabilities have interests, jobs and outside activities that shape who they are. While the disability is a part of that person, it shouldn’t be the focus. The same is true for you if you decide to go on a date with someone who has a disability. Not only will they be impressed with you not focusing on whatever limitation they have to live with, but they will know you’ll be giving them a chance to get them know them as a person instead of being caught up in a disability they more than likely see as secondary to who they are as an individual.

Every disability affects people differently. Even though a large population may have the same diagnosis, that doesn’t mean that the disability presents itself in the same way. Whatever you may have read may not be accurate. If you have any questions about someone’s disability, it is important to get the facts from the person themselves. That person is the expert on how their disability affects them. It’s a good idea, once you have become comfortable with each other to find out the facts of that person’s circumstances. Don’t make assumptions based on what you have seen or read about what that person’s life is like. Once you get to the point of learning more about how that person’s disability affects them, you may be surprised what you learn.

Get ready to learn something new. Dating can be an exciting journey for so many reasons. You get to meet different people; you get to have new experiences. Dating someone with a disability is no different. The only additional perk is that you will learn new things about how people with disabilities accomplish tasks. Most of the time people with disabilities must think outside the box to get things done. Seeing life through someone else’s eyes by spending time with them gives you a new perspective on how others navigate the world. The area of assistive technology can also show you the possibilities available by helping people compensate for the limitations a disability puts in front of them. Assistive technology are pieces of equipment someone with a disability can use to help them accomplish tasks someone without a disability can do without assistance.  Seeing someone use a piece of assistive technology may also change the way you look at the world. These devices are a great way to demonstrate in real-time that a person’s limitations, physical or otherwise don’t have to limit their experiences in the world.   

Be open to new experiences. Dating someone with a disability can open your eyes to many things. It can teach you about the importance of accessibility of spaces or even inclusion of people with disabilities. You may go into a relationship with someone and feel like you know everything about a disability because of what you may have seen on television or heard about from a friend. A disability affects each person differently and the only way to know about how the disability affects that person is to be open to what you may learn or in a new experience.                                                                                                            

Be yourself. Let’s face it, everyone is nervous when it comes to dating. If you even look like you are being made uncomfortable by a person’s disability, your date is basically over.  On the other hand, if you find that you have things in common and can relate to each other simply as two people on a date, the odds will be in your favor that you’ll have a good time with that person. Your date will appreciate the environment and be excited to spend that time with you. If everything goes as well as you both hope, you’ll be on your way to scheduling a second date soon.

Remember, no matter what happens at the end of the date, dating people with different disabilities gives you a chance to broaden your horizons on specific topics. Our lives are not much different than other people and given the chance you probably will see for yourself that dating someone with a disability can be a great experience for you both. You may learn something new or even learn more about yourself on a personal level. You never know what is going to happen, you may have just met your future spouse and started making memories together.