Being a parent with a disability can sometimes require more energy than you know you have. It’s possible to sometimes find time and pace yourself in the jobs that need to get done during the day to keep your household running. Finding time to recharge may seem like a difficult thing or maybe even a bit selfish.
The coronavirus pandemic has also caused extra stress in our lives as a society. More than ever, it is important, not only to spend time with our kids but also to recharge our batteries. Finding the balance to both is one of the keys to success.
When I first became a parent, I felt like this was something I shouldn’t do. I felt like my son needed my attention all the time and if I couldn’t be there for him day and night, I was doing something wrong. After some reflection on those ideas, I realized it’s not an all or none situation. When I thought about it some more, carving out time for myself, separate from my family responsibilities is one of the best things for me to do for my family and for myself.
You may have to work to schedule the time in so that you can make this happen but, it is totally possible. It is important to note that the ideas listed below can also be used by parents without a disability. These are five ways to make time for yourself to recharge your batteries:
Exercise. Even as a person with a disability, it’s important to get active. There are a lot of options available to help you do that. Adaptive sports or adaptive self defense classes exist so that people with disabilities can participate in many different pastimes that can be lots of fun. There are now also many opportunities to have virtual fitness and yoga classes that can fit your schedule.
Reading or Audiobooks. Reading has proven benefits such as lowering your blood pressure. Reading can help you learn something new or relax by catching up on the latest best-selling paperback. It also gives you the opportunity to be transported to places you may not otherwise have the opportunity to visit.
Sleeping. Getting some extra sleep is always a good thing. Sleep can help reduce stress, regulate blood sugar, and keeps your heart healthy. During the earlier years a lot of new parents can experience a lack of sleep because their baby is adjusting to a sleep schedule. It might also be a good idea to take naps while your little one is napping too.
Watching television/Streaming services. There are so many options available today to watch your favorite television show. Whether it is binge watching your favorite episodes of Gilmore Girls or The Mandalorian, there is something available for everyone in a commercial free format.
Focus on Yourself. Get back to basics and unplug when possible. This might be things like learning a new hobby or skill. Maybe it means taking a bubble bath or a long shower. Maybe it’s time to tap into the many workshops, classes or other peer support groups you can find online.
Like with most of my lists, don’t limit yourself to these options. Find things to do that are important to you and communicate with loved ones to help with babysitting duties if necessary. Most of the activities listed here can be done during nap time or if a babysitter just isn’t an option for you.
The pandemic has changed the ways in which we interact with each other. Some of the ways we have available to us now give us the opportunity to interact and access resources like never before. It’s a good time to look around and inventory what interests you. More than likely there are resources available for you to tap into that can meet your needs.
Once you come back to your family and your daily routine you will be able to be rested and more able to be present to handle whatever life sends your way.